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This page exists to to provide an insight into our shifting morass of community standards. These principles and standards are not the [[Consensus]] of Noisebridge, and anyone can edit this page at any time. Hopefully, the community can ensure that this page continues to reflect what we think.
The first principle of Noisebridge is to [[Vision#Excellence | '''be excellent to each other''']]. We get a lot more specific in our [[anti-harassment policy]], but there are a whole load of other social norms which keep Noisebridge a safe and happy place to work and learn.


The only hard and fast rule of Noisebridge is '''be excellent to each other'''. Everything else is ''dicta''.
Noisebridge's [[Vision]] tried to avoid hard-and-fast rules. Many of these are guidelines, and rightly so. In the past, we've noticed that certain actions and behaviors are good for the space and other actions [[Drama|cause problems]]. This page exists to help you determine whether something you're considering is a good idea, and to help you work things out when reasonable people disagree.


= Purpose =
Although we work together and attempt to ensure that this page reflects what we collectively think, it's not our formal [[consensus]].
 
 
= Purpose and Vision =


* Noisebridge is a place for hacking, hackers, and learning to hack.
* Noisebridge is a place for hacking, hackers, and learning to hack.
* Noisebridge should be welcoming to those who visit, and a safe place to learn and work.
* Noisebridge operates by do-ocracy and consensus.
* Noisebridge operates by do-ocracy and consensus.
* The [[Noisebridge Vision]] describes what we are for, and what we are about.
* The [[Noisebridge Vision]] describes what we are for, and what we are about.


= Disagreement =
* If you disagree with your fellow hacker it would be excellent to [[Conflict Resolution | work out your differences]] with them.
* If you cannot work out your differences one-on-one, it would be excellent to work out your differences through [[mediation]].


= Entrance and Membership =
= Entrance and Membership =


* You do not need to be a member to hack at Noisebridge or participate in the community here.
* You do not need to be a [[membership|member]] to hack at Noisebridge or to participate in the community here.
* It is not excellent to admit someone to Noisebridge unless you are willing to take responsibility for their actions here.
* Members can come and use Noisebridge at any time.
* It is not excellent to use the resources of Noisebridge unless you are hacking or trying to actively participate in the community
* If you are not a [[:category:Members|member]] you should find one to host you and show you around.
* You can attempt to become a member of Noisebridge as described on the [[membership]] page.
** It's often easy to find someone on [[IRC]] or the [[mailing list]].
** You can also try coming to the space and introducing yourself as soon as you get here.
** If you're coming for a class or other event: don't sweat it, your teacher or a fellow student is taking responsibility for everyone at the event.
* You should take responsibility for the actions of anyone you invite or let into Noisebridge.
* If you are a regular user of Noisebridge or participant in our community, you should consider [[Membership]].


= Conflict and Emergency =


* It is excellent to do-ocratically remove someone who is disrupting Noisebridge, or dangerous.
= Disagreement =
** If you remove someone like this, you should email [[mailinglist|noisebridge-discuss]], and edit [[85]].
** If someone is removed from the space like this, they shouldn't return to the space except to work out the issue that resulted in their removal, either through [[mediation]], or at a [[Meetings | weekly meeting]].
 
= Do Not Want =
 
* [[Sleeping | Noisebridge is your hackerspace not your home]]. Do not live here.
 
= Why Publish These Standards =
 
Steve shook his head and repeated "Accommodating! Do you think Tracy will be able to handle all 14" of your dick when she has been used to your original 5 inches?"
 
I stuttered "I, I, I don't know. I guess we'll just have to try."
 
Steve asked if I was willing to risk all that hard work. Would Tracy be willing to put up with another month or more of no sex?
 
Steve was right, I had to make sure this worked. I asked what we could do.
 
Steve thought a few seconds and then said, "I think you have several options. You could find a hooker or some- one else able to accommodate your large size. Of course they would have to be close by whenever you invigorate. I'm not sure how Tracy would like that.
 
A second option is to use something, like a dildo, to expand Tracy prior to the big day. I'm sure it would take several sessions and there is the danger of that it might not work as well as you making love to her.
 
A third option is to find some sort of device to simu- late the correct pressure, and hope it's right the first time.
 
Finally, you could find someone with a penis large enough to open Tracy up to within a reasonable proxi- mity of your 14 inches, but that would be just as awkward as hiring a hooker."
 
Well, I knew a hooker was out of the question, Tracy would never stand for it. Certainly, a device was too risky. That left the dildo or, unfortunately, a sur- rogate penis. I was against the last option and was sure it would not be acceptable to Tracy either.
 
Thankfully, Steve noticed my discomfort with the idea and put some of my fears to rest. He informed me the expansion process using a surrogate was really a "clinical" kind of procedure. It wasn't as if someone would be making love to my wife. It was more like a therapist giving a massage. But I still wasn't con- vinced.
 
---
 
Tracy and I discussed our options later that night. Steve had painted a pretty scary picture of what could happen, and Tracy is very nervous about the whole thing. A simple yeast infection commercial gets her upset.
 
At that point it seemed as if all our acceptable options had eliminated themselves. I asked Tracy if she thought we should call the whole thing off. Was a large cock worth the price that we would have to pay?
 
Tracy thought about it for a moment, gave me a little hug, and told me that she was willing to make any sacrifice for my sake. Besides, she didn't want to admit that we had wasted all that effort. She finally decided that the surrogate penis would be the most likely thing to work, and besides it really would be more like a trip to the doctors office. O.K., Maybe more like a house call.
 
It was decided. As distasteful as it seemed, we would need someone to prepare Tracy to accommodate my new super sized cock. We were out of other acceptable options as we saw them, and we both knew we would have to see it through to the end.
 
It was Tracy who first suggested Steve for the task of preparing her. She had accidentally walked in on him while he was naked, in his room. He had been mastur- bating as she'd walked in. He had asked her earlier to stop by to help him sew on a button.
 
As she walked in, he saw her and gave his cock another couple of quick strokes and exploded in orgasm sending his cum high into the air.
 
She had gasped and had felt weak in surprise and shock but managed to quickly exit from the room. Later that night as I was finishing my invigoration she relayed the story while wildly rubbing her cunt. As I was cleaning up she told me how sorry she felt for him. He didn't appear to have a girlfriend and was left to seek his own release.
 
She then lit upon an idea. Steve was such a good friend, and obviously knowledgeable, wouldn't it be nice to let him do the honors with her. He was the size we were looking for and certainly knew what was required.
 
I was apprehensive about having Steve be with my wife but she seemed to settle on him as the one. She asked me if I would approach him about it. I reluctantly agreed. After all, Steve had been a great help through all of this and any penis envy that I had would soon be over.
 
When I asked him, Steve seemed surprised and expressed some concern about my reaction to someone ministering to my wife. I said I thought I could handle it as long as I was there to comfort Tracy.
 
He disagreed with me, he said that it was his experi- ence that its not a good idea to have the husband around during this kind of activity. He couldn't do it if I was there. His concentration would not be on the job at hand. Doctors don't allow family members into the operating room.
 
I told him that I admired his clinical attitude and that I guess I could stay out of the way. Based on my concession, he agreed to do it. He then added that they should start soon because my expansion could occur any day.
 
That evening Steve entered our bedroom about 8:00 to start the treatment on Tracy. I watched television in the living room. Occasionally, I would hear a yell or a knock from the bedroom. I used the device twice waiting for them to finish. Eventually I fell asleep on the couch.
 
---
 
When I woke up the next morning, Tracy was in the shower and Steve was nowhere to be found. When Tracy was dressed I asked her how the night had gone. She smiled and said that it had been all right.
 
I prodded her for more information but she was reluc- tant to talk about it. I figured that she didn't enjoy it all that much, plus the situation was kind of awkward. I was actually kind of surprised when Steve and Tracy retreated to the bedroom later that evening. Tracy was determined to see this thing through.
 
The pattern repeated itself for the remainder of the week. Tracy still didn't want to talk much about it and Steve was only home long enough to slip into bed with her.
 
I did notice that Tracy had settled down to her old; self back when we used to fuck every day. However the treatment was going, it seemed to be helping her.
 
Friday was the day Steve left for home. He got up early in the morning, showered, and stopped by the couch on his way out. He shook me awake and thanked me for allow him to help us. He cautioned against using the device for longer than another couple of months, something should have happened by then. He said he would be back every couple of weeks and would make sure he kept Tracy ready for me until then.
 
I got up and opened the door for him and thanked him for all his help. After he left, I slowly walked down the hall into my bedroom. Tracy was sleeping lightly. She was wearing a skimpy little teddy with no panties on.
 
I had never seen that outfit before. She looked great in it. The light from the window shown across her legs and stomach. Her legs were spread open and I peered down at her pussy. Her cunt was gaping wide open and cum was all over her face, tits, stomach, pussy and legs. Her hairless cunt lips were engorged and glowing red. Her nipples thrust out like pencil top erasers. Even her clit was standing at attention. The enormity of her once tight cunt amazed me. My entire penis could fit inside the opening without touching the sides. Some time during the week she had shaved off most of her pussy hair, leaving only a small triangle. It was matted and soaked with cum.
 
Steve returned two more times after that and stayed for a week each time. Each week was similar to the first week; me on the couch and him working with my wife in our bed. He continued to splatter cum all over her. I was allowed to stop in every morning after he left to check on Tracy. Here cunt was always huge and covered with cum. I suspected that she was giving him oral sex. I would notice drops of cum on her chin and cheeks. She never did that for me.
 
Finally, one morning Steve said he would be leaving and probably wouldn't return. He said that he had stretch- ed out Tracy as far as possible and that his mission was accomplished. She was ready and no longer needed him.
 
I thanked him for all his help, he informed me that if my cock wasn't larger in another couple of weeks, it probably never would be. On rare occasions it's not effective. He told me I could hang on to the expansion device no matter what happened.
 
I told him I would keep using it for a while and would darn well pay for it too. After all, I was the one it was helping. I was kind of surprised at the price he said he paid, but figured it would be worth it in the long run. I handed him a check for $475 and thanked him again for all his help. He truly was a good friend. With that he walked out the door and I never saw him again.


A couple of weeks passed and I remained 5" long. In that time Tracy seemed to lose interest in her once nightly rubbing sessions and did not appear at all concerned with our lack of sex. Whatever Steve had done, it was having positive effects. I found it curious that Tracy had taken a liking to her carefully trimmed pussy and spent considerable time grooming it.
* If you disagree with another member of the community you should try to [[Conflict Resolution | work out your differences]] with them.
* If you cannot work out your differences one-on-one, you should consider [[mediation]].
* If someone asks you to leave them alone or to otherwise stop a behavior that is directed toward them, please do so. Continued unwanted behavior directed toward another person is [[Harassment]].


Finally after another 2 weeks, I decided to quit using the device and get back to my old life. I was disap- pointed that I hadn't been successful, but at least Steve, Tracy and I had given it our best shot.
== Requests to Leave ==
* If someone is acting in a way incompatible with our community standards, '''you are empowered to ask them to leave Noisebridge immediately'''.
* You are under no obligation to do so, and absolutely should not confront someone who you think poses a physical danger to you.
* If someone asks you to leave Noisebridge, you should immediately leave, whether or not you think their request was legitimate or in good faith.
* If someone asks you to leave, you should not return until the conflict has been resolved, hopefully through mediation.
* If you ask someone to leave, you should email the [[mailing list]] to explain the situation.


I convinced Tracy to try sex with me the next evening. Try is the appropriate word because we both could not feel a thing. I couldn't even cum, there was no friction at all. It was like humping air. We tried a couple of more times but to no avail.
== Reporting ==
If you would prefer to privately report unacceptable behavior (including violations of our [[anti-harassment policy]]), you can email [mailto:secretary@noisebridge.net <secretary@noisebridge.net>]. This email address is monitored by a number of upstanding and trustworthy folks. They'll handle your request privately if you prefer, and otherwise work to resolve the problem in a way which keeps you safe and protects the community from unacceptable behavoior.


I felt inadequate. I couldn't please my own wife. Several weeks later I returned home from work to find her in bed with a stranger.


When I walked in, he turned to me and pulled his cock out of Tracy's cunt and showed it to me saying, "four- teen inches!"
= General Guidelines =


Tracy just guided his cock back in and moaned.
* Talk to people and make friends. Part of the point of Noisebridge is interpersonal interaction, and we want to meet you and learn about whatever cool project you're working on. It's amazing how often random discussions between people at Noisebridge have turned into things that show up on the world stage.
* On the other hand, do be sensitive to people's desire to stop talking and start hacking. If someone starts looking away, returning to their laptop or project, or begins walking away, consider that you might be the Nth person to strike up a conversation with them, and they may want to actually get something done.
* [[Sleeping | Noisebridge is your hackerspace, not your home]]. Living here is definitely [http://hackerspaces.org/wiki/The_Roommate_Anti-Pattern an anti-pattern], so don't even try to do this! If money is a problem, have a look at our page of [[Starving hackers | starving hacker resources]] for ways to get around and crash if you're short on cash.
* Pull your own weight. We don't have housekeeping service, so clean up after yourself and put things away when you're done. In fact, you're going to get a lot of good karma by tidying up twice the amount of space you use on a regular basis.
* Everything in Noisebridge is hackable. If you don't want something taken apart and turned into a giant robot the moment your back is turned, leave it on your shelf, or mark it clearly with your name, a way to contact you, the date, and what you're doing. Even then there are no guarantees -- it's just mildly rude to hack on a labelled thing unannounced, as opposed to positively encouraged.
* If you find yourself having to explain something in the space more than once, you should probably label it.
* If you can't throw something away in a full garbage can, you should probably empty it.
* If you see someone being awesome or something which is awesome, it's awesome in turn to sing its praises. Motivation is a rare commodity among us and a compliment here and there can work wonders in terms of creating more of it. We have a Noticeboard of Excellence by the door which is a good place to leave a semi-permanent thankyou.
* Bringing minors to Noisebridge might result in them being exposed to ideas outside of your control, and you probably shouldn't bring them if that's going to be a problem.
* Bringing pets hasn't historically been a serious problem, since we have a pretty big space and allergic folks can usually relocate. You should still ask around and meet people to find out, though!
* Don't bittorrent from the space, it causes lots of problems for other people trying to use the network. We've also gotten DMCA notices about people snarfing copyrighted content using our links and they're very annoying and unexcellent. Please don't download copyrighted content illegally using our Internet links.
* If you're going to smoke, smoke downstairs on the sidewalk. Don't smoke on the fire escape -- it affects our neighbour's small children, the ash falls down onto the fruit below, and the fire service get mad at us.
* At least one Noisebridge member is seriously allergic to marijuana smoke, so please don't smoke it in the space or nearby.
* Don't talk about politics or religion if you want to avoid conflict. Noisebridge attracts a certain kind of personality that gets irate when they suspect someone thinks they're wrong, and even mentioning you support a different political or religious group than them can really push their buttons if they're having a bad day.
* Going on the roof is, except in narrow conditions that you almost certainly aren't covered by, a violation of our lease agreement. It also causes leaks, and in the past a leak destroyed some irreplaceable artwork belonging to a member. Don't go up there without talking to someone who knows about the lease details.
* Taking stuff from the space temporarily without leaving a note with your contact info is a surefire way to cause problems. Taking stuff permanently, even if everyone agrees it needs to go, can cause tax issues which you should bring up at the weekly meetings.
* Please ask before playing music through the public audio systems, especially if people are quietly enjoying the space.
* Try to keep infodumps to new acquaintances to under a few minutes. Many people at Noisebridge are walking libraries on their field of expertise, but no one likes being fed a textbook through their ears.
* Do not do anything at Noisebridge or involving Noisebridge which could affect a political election campaign, express or implied, incumbent or not. While not illegal, it is grounds for the IRS to revoke our [[Tax exemption|tax exempt status]], no exceptions.
* Noisebridge must not be involved in anything which could affect legislation, with certain limited exemptions. Talk to the [[Board and Officers|officers of the corporation]] for guidance if you are unsure whether your proposed activities will be exempt or not.


It is important for regular users of the space to be aware of the purpose of Noisebridge. If people want to use the space and have no interest in or respect for hacking, this does not mean they are automatically unwelcome at Noisebridge, but they should thoroughly understand that their use of the space is tangential to its purpose and at the discretion of the membership and other stakeholders.
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Revision as of 22:12, 13 June 2016

The first principle of Noisebridge is to be excellent to each other. We get a lot more specific in our anti-harassment policy, but there are a whole load of other social norms which keep Noisebridge a safe and happy place to work and learn.

Noisebridge's Vision tried to avoid hard-and-fast rules. Many of these are guidelines, and rightly so. In the past, we've noticed that certain actions and behaviors are good for the space and other actions cause problems. This page exists to help you determine whether something you're considering is a good idea, and to help you work things out when reasonable people disagree.

Although we work together and attempt to ensure that this page reflects what we collectively think, it's not our formal consensus.


Purpose and Vision

  • Noisebridge is a place for hacking, hackers, and learning to hack.
  • Noisebridge should be welcoming to those who visit, and a safe place to learn and work.
  • Noisebridge operates by do-ocracy and consensus.
  • The Noisebridge Vision describes what we are for, and what we are about.


Entrance and Membership

  • You do not need to be a member to hack at Noisebridge or to participate in the community here.
  • Members can come and use Noisebridge at any time.
  • If you are not a member you should find one to host you and show you around.
    • It's often easy to find someone on IRC or the mailing list.
    • You can also try coming to the space and introducing yourself as soon as you get here.
    • If you're coming for a class or other event: don't sweat it, your teacher or a fellow student is taking responsibility for everyone at the event.
  • You should take responsibility for the actions of anyone you invite or let into Noisebridge.
  • If you are a regular user of Noisebridge or participant in our community, you should consider Membership.


Disagreement

  • If you disagree with another member of the community you should try to work out your differences with them.
  • If you cannot work out your differences one-on-one, you should consider mediation.
  • If someone asks you to leave them alone or to otherwise stop a behavior that is directed toward them, please do so. Continued unwanted behavior directed toward another person is Harassment.

Requests to Leave

  • If someone is acting in a way incompatible with our community standards, you are empowered to ask them to leave Noisebridge immediately.
  • You are under no obligation to do so, and absolutely should not confront someone who you think poses a physical danger to you.
  • If someone asks you to leave Noisebridge, you should immediately leave, whether or not you think their request was legitimate or in good faith.
  • If someone asks you to leave, you should not return until the conflict has been resolved, hopefully through mediation.
  • If you ask someone to leave, you should email the mailing list to explain the situation.

Reporting

If you would prefer to privately report unacceptable behavior (including violations of our anti-harassment policy), you can email <secretary@noisebridge.net>. This email address is monitored by a number of upstanding and trustworthy folks. They'll handle your request privately if you prefer, and otherwise work to resolve the problem in a way which keeps you safe and protects the community from unacceptable behavoior.


General Guidelines

  • Talk to people and make friends. Part of the point of Noisebridge is interpersonal interaction, and we want to meet you and learn about whatever cool project you're working on. It's amazing how often random discussions between people at Noisebridge have turned into things that show up on the world stage.
  • On the other hand, do be sensitive to people's desire to stop talking and start hacking. If someone starts looking away, returning to their laptop or project, or begins walking away, consider that you might be the Nth person to strike up a conversation with them, and they may want to actually get something done.
  • Noisebridge is your hackerspace, not your home. Living here is definitely an anti-pattern, so don't even try to do this! If money is a problem, have a look at our page of starving hacker resources for ways to get around and crash if you're short on cash.
  • Pull your own weight. We don't have housekeeping service, so clean up after yourself and put things away when you're done. In fact, you're going to get a lot of good karma by tidying up twice the amount of space you use on a regular basis.
  • Everything in Noisebridge is hackable. If you don't want something taken apart and turned into a giant robot the moment your back is turned, leave it on your shelf, or mark it clearly with your name, a way to contact you, the date, and what you're doing. Even then there are no guarantees -- it's just mildly rude to hack on a labelled thing unannounced, as opposed to positively encouraged.
  • If you find yourself having to explain something in the space more than once, you should probably label it.
  • If you can't throw something away in a full garbage can, you should probably empty it.
  • If you see someone being awesome or something which is awesome, it's awesome in turn to sing its praises. Motivation is a rare commodity among us and a compliment here and there can work wonders in terms of creating more of it. We have a Noticeboard of Excellence by the door which is a good place to leave a semi-permanent thankyou.
  • Bringing minors to Noisebridge might result in them being exposed to ideas outside of your control, and you probably shouldn't bring them if that's going to be a problem.
  • Bringing pets hasn't historically been a serious problem, since we have a pretty big space and allergic folks can usually relocate. You should still ask around and meet people to find out, though!
  • Don't bittorrent from the space, it causes lots of problems for other people trying to use the network. We've also gotten DMCA notices about people snarfing copyrighted content using our links and they're very annoying and unexcellent. Please don't download copyrighted content illegally using our Internet links.
  • If you're going to smoke, smoke downstairs on the sidewalk. Don't smoke on the fire escape -- it affects our neighbour's small children, the ash falls down onto the fruit below, and the fire service get mad at us.
  • At least one Noisebridge member is seriously allergic to marijuana smoke, so please don't smoke it in the space or nearby.
  • Don't talk about politics or religion if you want to avoid conflict. Noisebridge attracts a certain kind of personality that gets irate when they suspect someone thinks they're wrong, and even mentioning you support a different political or religious group than them can really push their buttons if they're having a bad day.
  • Going on the roof is, except in narrow conditions that you almost certainly aren't covered by, a violation of our lease agreement. It also causes leaks, and in the past a leak destroyed some irreplaceable artwork belonging to a member. Don't go up there without talking to someone who knows about the lease details.
  • Taking stuff from the space temporarily without leaving a note with your contact info is a surefire way to cause problems. Taking stuff permanently, even if everyone agrees it needs to go, can cause tax issues which you should bring up at the weekly meetings.
  • Please ask before playing music through the public audio systems, especially if people are quietly enjoying the space.
  • Try to keep infodumps to new acquaintances to under a few minutes. Many people at Noisebridge are walking libraries on their field of expertise, but no one likes being fed a textbook through their ears.
  • Do not do anything at Noisebridge or involving Noisebridge which could affect a political election campaign, express or implied, incumbent or not. While not illegal, it is grounds for the IRS to revoke our tax exempt status, no exceptions.
  • Noisebridge must not be involved in anything which could affect legislation, with certain limited exemptions. Talk to the officers of the corporation for guidance if you are unsure whether your proposed activities will be exempt or not.


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